This Child is So Special

I have just been ascended to the status of grand uncle, seriously(grand uncle, or in Hokkien it is called Ku Kong)One of my many nephews has been made a father as well, and that's the reason i am a grand uncle now.

This girl is so special not only she'd made me a Ku Kong (grand uncle) she'd also made my mother a great grand mother, and she's the first one to do that in our household.

So let me have the priviledge to introduce to you to this lil one........her name is Leticia Yeang, born 7th of November 2009 to the wonderful parents of Deon and Ivy.

In fact it is a double whammy for me this week, i am celebrating my 13th wedding anniversary and i am a grand uncle now to Leticia, oh what a joy............

P/S : When the heart is open, the blessing shall come in many folds

Celebrating Friday, cos it is so special

Today the 13th of November is a great Friday for me, it marks as the prelude to my 13th wedding anniversary which falls on the 16th of November(just 3 days away,) so Friday such as this i will celebrate with my wife and show her and to tell her i am indeed proud to have her for my wife..........

The road of marriage is long and winding,with you along i can find solace when i am tired and weary.
13 years ago, i looked like Marvin Gayle, and she looked like Donna Summer ,,hahah


Till then, my internet connection shall go kaput............. we will be heading to Venus and be burnt in esctasy............

Note : She is not a perfect wife, but then again i am not a perfect husband either, that makes us so compatible.





P/S : Madly, deeply, truly in love with you

The worse of

I was blog surfing last night, and i stumbled upon this particular blog which kind of caught my attention simply because she had got 3 posts in relation to marriage,albeit the failed one and the not so nice things a man could do to a woman.(cant name the blog because i have not got her approval yet, some of you should know who cos i saw your comments left in her blog.)

So i decided to share my thoughts about the worse a man can do to a woman in the following lists. (mind you, this is solely my thought, any smiliariality is purely coincidental). ok let share

1) You were not there even once accompanying her to see gyanea during her pregnancy check ups. (unless you have very good reasons to do so) and dont you know there is a thing called pre natal anxiety.

2)During her confinement period, you were out there having jolly good times every night without attending to her needs, (dont you know, there is a thing called post natal depression)

3)You lavish and splash your money outside upon other girls, and come back and tell your wife you are broke and have to borrow money from her, or she has got to stand in to pay all the bills.

4)You keep a mistress outside, that is very bad and the worse is when your mistress is a man.....

5)You go fuck other girls outside, and you couldn't care less if you would inflict sicknesses to your wife. (Dont you know there is no such thing as 100 % precaution, worse still when the precaution is only made of rubber and not steel)

6)She works hard 9 to 5 outside, and you still believe that it is solely her responsibility to see that the house is in order when you come back. ( I am not your superwoman, i'm not that kind of girl....)


7)You say that your wife is no longer good on bed, when you yourself is so selfish on bed.(if you know what i mean) ,how can she be good when your protruding, heavy and odd size beer belly is on her, she cant even find a comfortable position, damn you.

8)You complain that your wife is a slob and boorish, when all her money is spent for the family and she does not even have the spare to beautify herself. And when she wants to buy a good dress, you tell her no need, cos she will look the same when she is undressed.

9)You dont respect her parents and you expect her to do otherwise to yours. (dont you know one day you will be someone else's in law too)

10)You dont say anything good about your wife, worse still you do it in front of your friends.(dont you know you are more stupid if you think you'd made a stupid choice).

11)When you cant satisfy her sexually, you always put the blame on her, it is her own fault and never yours, you thought that your pre-ejaculation is good enough for her. (come one even sexual dyfunction can be remedied, what is pre-E, no sweat. medical advancement now man)

12) And the worst a man can do to a woman is when you abuse her physically on the pretext that you cant control yourself and you ask for forgiveness but again and again you let history repeat itself.

This is just a out of the norm of my blog posting, dont know why suddenly felt like doing this, by the way do you have any to add on to my list?

P/S : I am not biased, there the good, the bad and the ugly irrespective of.....

You think this is stupid ?

His wife succumbed to cancer 17 years ago, and he was only 52 then, (men in the 50s, still carry a lot of charm and spunk, dont we?) but since then i mean since the first week of his wife's demise which was on Friday, my friend Mr Kong has never failed to visit his wife's grave with a stalk of flower every friday evening as soon as he comes down from his hike right untill now.


I didnt believe it when i was told by his ex colleague about Mr Kong's undying love for his wife because i have never heard something like this from the people i know but yesterday i heard it right from the horse's mouth when i met Mr Kong during lunch.


It was hard for me to ask him to "testify" in front of me about his incessant love for his wife that i heard from his ex colleague, but to Mr Kong i am always the little boy who used to go to his office during my sales round many years ago, so i reckon it would not be a problem or even foolhardy for me to ask him what i eagerly wanting to know when given the chance.


So i asked, " Mr Kong, i heard that every friday after your hike, you will always go to your wife's grave and pay her the respect, true ka.? i asked incredulously. He was stunned with my question and as smile began to beam on his face he replied, " Indeed it is true"


I was amazed with his "testimony" i gave him a pat on the shoulder and put my hand on my forehead in a salute sign to this man Mr Kong who has stood the test of time as far as true love is concerned.


I will be celebrating my 13th wedding annervessary this coming 16th of November, i truly love my wife, no doubt about it, and i am still truly, madly and deeply in love with her, but can i be like Mr Kong when the very essence of love is tested, as for now i am 80% certain, i will but the remaining 20%, (may be if i can still find someone like her, then .......)

The most bizzare one i heard was this, the husband took in his girlfriend just three days after his wife's demise and pronounced to his children the new status of his girlfriend.(This happened to my former classmate)

Q)Do you think it is stupid to stay steadfastly devoted in marriage even when the other partner is gone?


P/S : The equation between Love and Stupidity is still LOVE............

Friend from Ipoh, Indeed sudah Mari

Something nice ( i mean very nice) happened to me yesterday morning, it all started with a SMS message that read something like this " Good morning boss, am in Penang, going to check in Gurney now, want to pass something to you, if possible for you to come before 12 noon, " didnt know who that was because i lost some of my contacts when my ex phone went kaput.


I was thinking who could be so good in giving me something,so i called back, no answer, and she called back, Voila!!!!!!! she was someone that i have been longing to meet for so many moons and suns, and she was none other than Claire.

I was truly moved and touched by the simple gesture of Claire's, to call me up and wanting to meet up with me so without a split second of hesitation, i told her to give me 30 minutes(actually i didn't need 30 minutes to get there but you know, i have to go to the powder room and make myself look presentable ma! first impression doest come again the second time, right?)

Claire is my blogger friend, we have been blogging friends since last year, she is one of my fav bloggers to say the least, she has never failed to amaze me with her blogging skill and her tenacity in keeping her blog updated faster than you take your next breath( exaggerate a bit lah) but indeed she is a prolific blogger.

I guess non bloggers will never understand and enjoy the serendipity as we do by just blogging, the joy and those edifying words we get from our fellow blogger friends.

Q) Hey guys, please take a guess what did Claire present to me as a gift?


This is to you Claire, dont ever call me Boss again, otherwise i will banish myself from you..we are friends ma.


Claire's site is here.... http://www.reanaclaire.com/



P/S : Winter, spring, summer or fall, all you got to do is call................

When a man cries.............

Frankly speaking, have not been feeling upbeat for the past few days, kind of stressed out, trying hard to keep my composure, did lose cool a few times over the weekend, it all started with THIS, and because of THIS suddenly THIS seemed to have some things to do with myself.

Last friday, had a coffee break with an old friend, who was in his early 50s, as we were chatting away, suddenly he felt like having some beers, so i conceded, beers and friday what a pleasant combination.

As we were having some good times, suddenly my friend was kind of sad when i asked him about his current status, his eyes suddenly turned red and i could see drop by drop of tears streaming down his cheek, asked him why...........

His business has taken a beating since early this year, and he has been living with the help of credit cards financing and it had since balloning, he was feeling sad because as he told me, at his age, he just didnt know what he could do if his business really gets busted, he could not go back to the work force anymore,................and the whole family depended on him.

You may ask, what has my friend's predicament got to do with me? Nothing really, but the cruel reality of a man in mid 40s into 50s, losing it sounds too scary for me, as recently my business has in a way been not so rosy as well and others.............

When i saw my friend crying in front of me, i knew and i could feel how frustrating and how hopeless it might be for him, he was a good family man, no vices what so ever but it was just that the economy was not doing him any favour and i sheded some tears with him too.

When a man (in his 50s) cries, it must be really hard, i reckon.

P/S : I tried to look around me, i saw worse and i'd survive

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This post is deliberately left blank, due to the author's needs to take a breather, got so many things to share but the mind is just blank............



P/S : Dont worry, i will be back

wishing you guys a great weekend

Dont Know Why..........

Dont know why.........!
Off late, i have not been sleeping well, doze off to sleep then about 4.30 am, my mind suddenly becomes active,and it will kick me up and i start thinking, worry a bit here and a bit there. Could it be Mid Life Crisis?

Dont know why........!
Suddenly i feel that happiness has been kind of slipping off my fingers, and find it hard to stay happy, again worry a bit here and a bit there, could it be because i am entering into my mid 40s?

Dont know why........!
Recently, i keep very close tab on my bank account(not much inside though) to see if i had saved enough for this and for that, to see if i could weather the financial burden if worst were to befall me, dont know why i do this, could it be that i am too hard on myself?

Dont know why......!
There is an abrupt urge in me to seek GOD, to talk to HIM to be close to HIM like i used to, but somehow or rather, something is halting me, dont know why, could it be that when you advance with age, you tend to be more spiritual?

Dont know why.......!
There is a fear in me that what would i do if i were to lose everything, my business, my this and my that, could it be this is part of the worries one faces in life when you have walked about half of century of life?

Dont know why.....!
Suddenly i have this urge of pouring out these feelings of mine here,could it be that i long for someone to hear me out, or could it be suddenly i feel so small.

Dont know why.....!
I wish i could be like Micheal J Fox, travel back in time and rewrite my life all over again,?

Dont know why.....!
I am feeling tired now

Q)What was the worst period in your life, care to share?
Q)What do you do when you are sad? (I just asked my eldest son Jovial this question, and innocently he said,, when he was sad, he would try not to think about it.)

P/S : Life has its ups and downs, may be i am at the latter now.

Google is giving me headache..sigh.

My youngest son Marvell is madly into origami, his penchant for it amazes me and my wife, it all started about 4 months ago, when i coaxed him into making a small origami in the form of a present for me, thereon, it was no stopping him.


Later on, he wanted us to buy some origami books for him, and man i tell you those art and craft books ain't no cheap, we bought two all together but he wanted somemore, because most of the time he would be able to complete almost all the pictures in those books, that got me a bit uneasy, pricey books, origami....hmmmmmmmmmm
This is my lovely Marvell Ung Wew, the origami artist, he'd learnt something else along the way


All of a sudden a surprise revelation came to me, i thought i could ask my son to do a google search on the subjects on origami. So one day i called him to me and i said this to him " you know Marvell, one thing good about google is that it is a treasure trove of information, you can litterally search anything from it, for example even your origami" innocently he asked me how, i told him you must always start your search with the keyword "how to" i asked him could he understand it, he nodded, and that's when my whole problem started.


One day, Marell came to me and my wife with one thousands and one questions on "How To", he just asked us the following with the starting line, " Mommy and papa, can you please tell me "


1) How to get pregnant

2) How to kiss

3) How to make love

4) How to this and how to that...................


We were stunned by the questions he asked us, and we wanted to find out where did he get all these questions from.


You know children at his age (8) are very straight forward, and innocently he explained in this way to us." Papa, you remember, you thought me to google search about origami by using the keyword "how to", i did that and i scrolled down to look for origami, instead papa i saw a lot of interesting questions"


Then i asked him did he type the words " how to do origami" he said no, he just typed "how to" and he scrolled down the page looking for origami..................what a bombshell.


Finally i thought him the correct way to search for origami, and as a bonus he learnt about how to get pregnant and how to kiss at the same time..hahahahah


Q) what is your child's funny encounter with internet?



P/S : A child's innocence sometimes can be so pleasant

It broke my heart, it really did..........

Last Sunday, i took my family out for breadfast in my old neigbourhood, i really love going back to my old place, the place that saw me growing up, the place that witnessed my philandering past(hahahahah), the place that was so synonmous with good memories as far as i am concerned, and i just love going back.......


As i was seating down with my family, suddenly i saw a frail, very skinny lady wearing a large-framed sun glasses, her steps were like hampered by her infirmed body and slowly she took the seat across my table, i thought i knew her but then again it just could not be her, the person i knew was not like this, so i stopped short at greeting her.


Shortly after which i saw my friend, i called out to him " hello Ah Moh, long time no see man" happily he responded in Hokkien. " ya man long time no see" he took the seat next to the skinny lady, then my mind suddenly became confused and i was asking myself, " Could this be the wife of Ah Moh's" indeed she was and indeed she really looked so different that i wished it was not her.


I walked over to Ah Moh, before i could say anything, Ah Moh sensing my curiousity and concern, without hesitation he just said, " yup, my wife is suffering from CANCER " i knew at that moment that i did not wish to ask further, because as far as i was concerned CANCER was CANCER irrespective which part of our body it took its ruthless dwelling. I bent over and extended my hand and wished my friend's wife a good life, (that's what i really wanted for her, sincerely)


CANCER, what a feared and dreaded word, i really wish it doesnt exist at all, but then again i know i will be a fool to think likewise. You know i really dont like to hear this suddenly out of the blue when someone says this to me, " You know ah, Eugene, so and so got CANCER now" or " you know kah, Eugene, so and so just died last week because of CANCER" or the worst ever heard " So and so die already because of CANCER, and his so and so also die of CANCER not too long ago"


It is funny, isnt it? With the wonderous and the most magical mind of human, we can come out with the out of the world and perhaps the most advanced invention that have us all in awe, sadly we just cant invent just one thing that can wipe out CANCER from the face of the earth. Why is it so? could it be some kind of consipracy theory that allows the onslaught of CANCER to continue so that some corporations can make tonnes of money at our desperation and making us helpless at their mercy? you tell me.


We can conquer the moon, star and may be the Sun, but day by day thousands upon thousands are being conquered and vanquished by CANCER.



It broke my heart when i saw Ah Moh's wife, it really did.



P/S : May be life can be better and freer, if we choose to make it simpler.