I almost blew my top but i didn't have the heart.........

Remember the famous cliche,"hungry man is the angry man," that was exactly what happened to me last night, so story goes............................

My lovely wife had a dinner last night with her colleague from Singapore, plan was fixed that i would cook for my two wonderful sons, so in the evening i called her to confirm what had been fixed, on top of that she told me she would be back before 9 evening, so i told her to buy back food for me.

All done with the children,sat down, watched the news and suddenly my tummy was grumbling away, it was already 8.54 pm, still no sight of my lovely wife with my food. I decided to call her, twice i did, no respond, she only answered on my fourth call, i asked where she was, she said on the way (" on the way" is the word that i loathe so much" angrily asked her again where she was, she told me she was still in town, i told her i'd get my own food,rudely i hung up on her.

When i came back from food, she was already at home, and i was still furiously mad at her, and i wanted an apology but she was so oblivious to it, so i guess i had to do what i had to do, i told her to say "sorry" and i told her how i felt at that particular moment (when my tummy was grumbling) i felt like being ignored by her.

I never like to retire from the evening with anger in my heart, and as husband and wife, we sometimes thought that our spouse ought to know how we felt, sadly most of times it was not the case.

l chose to tell her how i felt instead of feeling mad at her, because i love her therefore i dont have the heart to be mad at her.

Q)What do you when you are mad at your spouse, do you sweep it under the carpet?

P/S : If you want to be heard, please open that damn mouth, and if you want to be understood, open that damn mouth even bigger.........

It still feels like the first time.........

Ok,how should i begin ? right, it all started about few weeks ago, when a blogger friend from Kuala Lumpur emailed me saying that she would be coming to Penang for a short holiday with her family, asking if we could meet up, i was so happy about it and i gladly said not in anyway i would miss out on her.



From left... my lil one Marvell, my lovely wife, my wonderful son, me and the ever so lovely blogger friend from KL

It is always nice to have come face to face with someone you've only heard of, someone you could only read about from their blogs, prior to this meeting, i have infact met another two bloggers one from Sibu,another from Ipoh and both were a great meeting, albeit one of them was a brief one.

It was a feeling of dejavu and sense of affinity when i came face to face with this lovely blogger friend, it was really as if that we have been friends for so long, all the obliging pleasantries were not even mentioned.

We really started talking like old friends do, and i had no problems what so ever mingling with her husband and warming up to her lil one.

During her two and half days stay in Penang, i had one regret though, i did not manage to fulfill my promises to her, that's was to take her around, (jalan jalan cari makan) because she was so fully "booked". Hope to make it up for her again when she comes again.

Q)Do you have idea, who this lovely lady blogger is?

P/S : To make friends, one has just got to be FRIEND

Hey, I'm so sorry, i didn't get your name.......

I was at Starbuck in Borders bookstore yesterday with my family yesterday, kind of dissappointed as our favourite sofas at the corner inside Starbuck were all taken up, hence we settled for the not so comfy wooden chairs.

Not long after our settlement with the wooden chairs, suddenly one nice lady with a nice smile on her face came up to me and said something like this," You can take my place over there, there are three sofas there," i responded with a greatful, " hey, i appreciate it." then and she sauntered over to collect her books from the coffee table, i just followed suit.

As i bent over to help her to gather her books, suddenly she said something that really put me on "cloud nine" touching "cloud ten" hahahahahahah, and she said,"You've got a very interesting blog," i was like tossed into disbelief, suddenly i felt like a celebrity blogger,hahahaha, a stranger telling me something like this, and with a twist of my tongue and said," I am eugene," and she said something like this again, " i know cos i saw your picture in the blog."

Before i could get her name and to thank her because i was still immersed in the esctasy of still believing that i was a celeb blogger, and when i finally came to my senses, she was already gone.

I really learnt something very important from this lovely lady, something so little that she did but gave out some much to someone who received. For one, she could have just kept quiet after offering me her sofas, but instead from her brief comment, she had just made someone felt so nice.( Think about it)

And to this lovely lady, if you happen to drop by here reading, this post is for you in appreciation to your kind comment, that had in one way touched a soul, and i thank you for letting me know and to believe that i could have made my blog to bring some joy and laughter to more "friends" like you.

So please leave your name in my comment box, i would really like to address you by your name, the next time i cross the path of friendship with you, thank you once again.

P/S : God has given us the gift of edifying others, so therefore manifest that gift

It's Friday and let's Settle the Score

It was interesting enough for me to learn a thing or two from a woman's perspective towards man,in relation to my yesterday's posting about my lady friend's relationship problems.

It is kind of fair enough to sum up that in fact men are mostly egoistic(me included), but another question always intrigues me as far as a man's egoism is concerned. WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO ABOUT IT?

D0 women for one.

1)Just live with it, conceding to the fact that, what else can I do about it.
2)Ignore it, accepting the fact that , that's what makes her man The Man.
3)Trying to change her man....... but how?
4)Ultimate it.......you change or else............
5)To get ouside help..

Ok, it is Friday, so let us get to know each other better i mean not you and me,,, but male and female.

Let us hear what you think, may be in a way it will help us in our relationship with our loved ones.

P/S : If yesterday belongs to a woman, and tomorrow belongs to a man and today should belong to?

Said nothing and they went separate ways........

A true life's account that i just got to know of a lady friend of mine, i was so surprised when i heard it from another friend,then as a good friend, i confirmed with her,and she admitted........

They both work in banking sector,albeit different branches,the husband is the bank officer in a bigger branch,and he is required to sometimes go back to work on saturday and sunday, incidentally there is another female staff of his coincidentally always gets assigned on same dates with him.

Rumor started flying around, my lady friend heard about it, didn't seek clarification from her hubby, but when the rumor went a little berserk, my lady friend could not contain her suspicion anymore,then seeking clarification.

Just one statement from the husband, " if you trust me, dont ask this nonsense" and he furnished her with no explaination or any form of assurance. Slowly, they plunged into "cold-war" ,with her suspicion hanging above her and his non-chalant attitude that eventually aggravated the situation.

She asked for a hiatus of separation, he conceded and it has been a year and a half now. Many of their friends have talked to them about it, both refused to concede. One side says why should i clarify when there is no merit to, the other side says, please assure me of my suspicion.

Now she told me, she was considering a divorce for she said she didnt like to be in this situation anymore, but the fact remains the truth, funnily there is nothing fishy about her hubby with the said lady, but she said it was kind of too late already.

Q)Why cant a lady trust the man when she is asked to?

Q)Why cant the man assure the woman that there is no call for worries?

Q)Why cant they reconcile when there is really nothing happened?

For the first time, i dont understand............

Damn the rumor mongers.

P/S : Beyond physical and biological, there is emotional, make it all SPOKEN please................

I see Islam in him........

I got to know this customer of mine a few months back, he is a Chinese Muslim convert and his name is Mawardi Chew Abdullah,( I like that name), i love talking to him, simply because i can learn a lot from him.

I always tell him that i would argue with him if we talk about religion, but his mild demeanor and cultured character, and his patience always puts me at ease with him, dont know why but as i got to know him better, i got the answer.

Marwadi is a person who truly believes in the teaching of Islam, he knows the religion well, and just because he knows his religion well, he is all so humbled by what he'd learnt. He had never once potray himself like a messenger of God that tries to bulldoze his belief unto me and telling me how his religion is more superior than mine.

My praise, the elevation and the respect i have for Mawardi is not to promote Islam, but rather to reflect upon you and me, your faith, my belief. How many times have we come across somebody comes to you blankly, telling you if you do not believe in what he believes, you shall be doomed to hell, and how many times, when you need some religious elders to comfort you, they start telling you,you suffered because you are sinful.

If the religion that we embrace and profess cannot change us to be a person with compassion and love, to lend a ear to some friends, then what else can our religion do, i really wonder? Do we reserve our eternity only to those who we think are fitting for it, do we want our religion to only make us rich, do we stop someone from entering our sanctuary of worship because that someone is a sinner ,not worthy or infidel according to your standard?

I remember once, when i had some troubles with life, and i needed to talk to one of the pastors in my church of whom i regarded someone as inviting, instead he told me to make an appointment to see him the next day, what i wanted was only a few minutes of his time,from thereone, i just couldnt see Christ in him and everytime he stepped onto the pulpit to preach, i just felt that he was not the medium used by God.

Why cant your belief change you, or is it you wont let it change you? I see the truth of Islam when i see Mawardi, i feel the warmth of Islam, when i talk to Mawardi, I sense the serene of Islam, when i sit across him.

Can people around you see the religion you embrace in you and from you? Keep that answer to yourself

Q)What is the most hypocritical behaviour you ever heard from so called religious person?

For you to be different, try to be indifferent......

P/S : I Know We are All not God, and you'll look evil if you try to play God..

I am sad..............

Was having dinner with a very good friend and his son(who happens to be my Jovial's school mate) together with my family in a club, after the dinner, we sat by the poolside for some chit chat, another friend of mine then walked by, suddenly this friend invited me for a beer session, then out of nowhere, my Jovial uttered this to his friend after hearing my friend's invitation.......

"My father sure wants to drink beer, he is an alcoholic" i was caught in a awkward situation, one part me saying i wanted to have a good time, the other part of me saying " look Eugene, what have you done that got your son labelling you an alcoholic"

I guess as far as my son's impression of me as a alcoholic, thus far cannot not be dismissed as naysay, and i never knew that my having Good Times could leave such an impression to my son, may be it could be due to the frequency of my binging sessions, or my regular association with my beer buddies.

With the end year coming around, invitation of any sorts would be too hard to resist, but i know as a responsible father it will never be nice to be bad in the eyes of the children.

P/S : Resolution is passed, therefore determination must also come to pass

With money,can fling?

"You rich ka?" my friend asked me," No,only can get by comfortably" my answer. "ha,that's why you say you are loyal to your wife, because you dont have much to spare to indulge in a man's fantasy" cheekily he muttered, then he continued," What if you were to be Tiger Wood ?" thix conversation ensued from the lunch i had with a few friends.


At this juncture, i knew he was refering to the news of TW's extra marital fling, i sensed where my friend Loh was getting at, then i told him," If i were to be Tiger Wood, i would not be so stupid, i will keep my mistresses in the thick wood lah."


Seriously, can a man really turn bad if he starts to becoming rich or richer, does money itself expose men to more enticement in the form of extra marital affairs?


I have this old classmate of mine, who was not doing so well when he got married, after about 7 to 8 years, his business kind of hitting the jackpot, met him after a few years, he told me he got divorced, met his wife along the way, and she lamented that my friend changed because he got too much money to spare.

Will i turn bad,if i had more money than i possibly need? I wouldn't want to divulge but to me to hurt the people that you love,this is something money cannot compensate.......

Q) Have you heard of real life stories, men turning bad when became rich?


Q2) Can more money be the Devil of all the wrong Erections?





P/S : ..let us be penis wise not just penny wise.....

Of SMS and A Full Moon

I may sound kind of arhaic or outdated in my thinking, but there is one thing i really hate and loathe when it comes to family and sincerity or the lack of it..............so the stories go.

Story No 1,

I received an SMS from my younger sister with the text that reads something like this," I am holding a Christmas party on the 24th of Dec, can come or not?" personally i never like an invitation channelled through SMS, to me it always makes me feel that the invitation is not sincere,or just mere obliging.

When i received that SMS from my younger sister, i was not so happy about it,i was thinking why cant it be a telephone call, or was it so hard for a telephone call? Then over the weekend, i wanted to know if what i was feeling made any sense, i made a random survey from my friends about my malaise of this SMS.

I concluded that about 90 % of my friends could identify with my not so nice feeling (simply because it was between a older brother and a younger sister, and we live like less than 4 kilometeres away)

So what do you think?

Story No 2,

Last Saturday was my nephew's daughter full moon celebration, according to Chinese custom,on this auspicious day, my nephew should personally give the elders the full moon gifts to mark the occasion, but it was not the case as far as my nephew was concerned.

Instead of he carrying out the duty, it was my sister(my nephew's mother) calling me asking me if i was at home so that she could pass the full moon gift to me, when i heard it, i was kind of mad and diplomatically i declined her on the pretext that i didnt like the full moon food.

Seriously what have we all become? where is the family value now, why are the youngs not taught about the value of family? or are we like what Oscar Wilde said , " we know the prices of everything but the value of nothing."

Q) So what do you think?

P/S : It's so funny how we dont talk anymore..........

Remember the Forgotten(s)......

Today's being friday, my favourite day of the week, dont know why i always have this kind of sexy feeling when friday comes knocking........ok, for this Friday i want to declare today as a day(for those in relatioship or in marriage) "The Day to Remember The Forgotten(S)" to your partner or spouse,things that we have let them slipped through our fingers, those little things and sometimes the most insignificant of all, so today let us rekindle those little things.

My Forgotten(S)

For the past few days, i have forgotten to hold my lovely's wife hand,whenever i am driving her in my car. This is the promise that i made to her when i changed my car from manual to automatic transmission engine about 14 years ago, to me i can still remember saying this to her," when i change to auto, one hand i hold on to the steerling wheel, the other i will hold on to yours"

I have failed to give her a massage before she retires to bed, whenever she is too tired after reading her tonnes of emails, and the funny thing is she just reminded me of this last night and i was too tired to do it for her...

I have not taken her out for our binging hour for our favourite Guiness Draft and Kilkeneey Draft, i know she longs for this winding down especially on a friday night.

I have not been sending her SMS, telling her "I Love You" for a while now, i know she knows that i do love her, but making "I Love You" sounds better, is the least i can do for my lovely wife.
Ok, that's all i want to do for my lovely wife, how about you?

If you think your relationship is kind of strained or stale as of now,try to relive those courting moments that both of you once cherished, try it please.

P/S : There is some sexiness in everyone of us, exhibit it, show it and manifest it..