5 days have passed.........

Though the rashes remain,albeit not so evident anymore and I made him skip school today,(after his exam though) and tomorrow being holiday,I did it because I wanted Jovial to have good rest.....

Doctor said that I should monitor for a week,if there was blood in his urine,thank God,there has been no sign of it since the last visit to the doc...

Thanks for the concern and words of encouragement

P/S : Faith reigns

I prayed,I cried and I lost sleep.............

Jovial has been having rashes a few days now,so last night, I took him to see doctor and the doctor had a check on him and he said.........................

He said, his rashes were not due to allergy nor was it due to heat,he then gave me one medical jargon that I have never heard before and it was Nephrotic syndrome,I was thinking what the heck it was and when he explained it,it sent chill down my spine but I tried to keep my composure cos Jovial was present.

The doctor asked me to monitor his urine for one week,if there was blood in the urine,then I had to send it for further tests..........................

When I came back, I called out to Jovial and Marvell( their mother was back in her hometown) and we began to pray and I cried,suddenly I felt so helpless and suddenly I thought what I needed to do was to surrender to the Almighty.................

You know the first thing I woke up (actually I didn't really sleep) was to check on Jovial rashes.........

So for the whole of this week,all that I needed to do................keep the faith.

Note : Nephrotic Syndrome is damage of the kidneys

P/S : .......................................................................

She's just 18..........................................

I really feel compelled to share this..............may be it will help us to look at things differently or may be it will alert us that might just happen to our 15.16,17 or 18 years old boys and girls.

I was having some drinks with a couple of husband and wife last night and as we chatted along, the wife was sharing with me how stressed their daughter was going through as far as exams and school are concerned.

She said,her daughter would not be able to sleep, she cried when she was not able to "absorb" all that she had studied and she would not even want to come out for meals and other telling signs of "depression"

My friend said he did not know what to do to "pacify" his daughter, he said he had told his daughter umpteen   times that it would be all right even she did not do well but he said it was to no avail telling her that.

Seriously I just wonder, as a parent,do we really believe that our teen boys and girls would somewhere somehow be tossed into "depression" when it comes to exams and schooling ?

May be just like my friend,speaking from our perspective,it is absolutely all right for them to "chill" when it comes to exams but do we really "examine" why are they really feel "stressed"?

For an example,my friend (who is rich) has assured his daughter that if she could not get into local "U", he would have no problem of sending her overseas to further her studies but his daughter is still "depressed" even with that "assurance"

P/S : We need to teach our young about LIFE...............that ups and downs is part and parcel of it





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From Him to Her.....

This morning,Marvell told his mom that he would do what he is told from his mom, he dried the clothes for her,he massaged for her and for the rest of the day,he said,he would just submit to her request.

Few days ago,he crafted a art piece just to surprise his mom and in it,it says,,"Thanks mom for all that you have done for this family,thank you for your sacrifices and I promise to try my best to you listen to you" Ditto

Here wishing every mom a great Mother Day...remember "you deserve better too"

P/S : Mom's the greatest

The final push...

Sometimes I really like the ways Marvell makes his stance..........

It was about 8.50 pm last night, I knew he was tired, so I told him to go to bed early but he refused,then I told him that he should otherwise he would not be "alert"enough to sit for his exam today but then came his reply.

He said,"Papa, I know I've got exam tomorrow,that's why I am going to study "a little bit more" later" but I reiterated,"but darling, you are tired already ma" he insisted,"Papa, I want to give it a final push, so that I could do better than I did last time"

P/S : Son I am proud of you

For the first time...

For the first time I hugged him so hard,(I am glad that he responded likewise,it was just not him to do that) for the first time I cried for him and for the first time,I had this strange feeling that I was losing him.........

So the deadly cancer struck him once again, he was timed to go for chemotherapy today,even though he appeared nonchalant towards his illness but I knew he was dead scared......

For the first time, I told him that I loved him and I really meant it, even though we had never been close but moment like this,nothing else mattered, he ain't heavy, he is my brother.

Life is indeed funny, why must it always need a moment such like this for us to have a gut for hugs,for some tears and for uttering the words "I love you" ..?

I really don't know what the future holds for him, I am worried  that his frail and aged body would not be able to withstand the onslaught of the chemo treatments but what can I do except to pray for him.

P/S : Bro Steven, I hope you know that you have a bro that cares and loves ya...May God strengthen you ya

So sweet............

Last week, when I told Jovial that I might be suffering from high blood pressure, cos my record showed 156/98 and I told him that I chose not to get angry with him and told him that I truly loved him, I could see that his eyes were welled up with tears.

At night, my wife told me something like this,"You know, Jovial told me this before he went to sleep, he said,from now,we must not let papa be angry, he is old already, we must take care of him....."

P/S : Love can conquer all

Of late............

Of  late, I tried to understand that he is so called "in the transition period" from boyhood to manhood, seriously I tried but it is like a period that we both are engaged in a "cold war"....

We seldom talk now, not that we used to, we don't do things together now, not that we used too, so it is all about that he is 16 now.

I do believe that he has got good heart but at the same time, he has some ways need to be corrected too, so how? I can't be harsh,(cos it will back fire), I can't be too soft either.

Please share with me.........

P/S : It is harder than I thought

I will always treasure this moment............

Marvell was coughing badly and incessantly this morning, the coughs woke me up at about 5 am, it really pained me when I saw him coughing like this, my lovely wife woke up to boil him a cup of hotel water to soothe his cough and I..................

And I told him to come and sleep next to me, so that I could gently stroke his chest and back to make sure that he could sleep well and as I was doing it for the good 20 minutes also,Marvell tossed towards me and said with his sickly voice,"Papa,, thank you"

I looked at his steamy eyes and said,"You know son,it pains me to see you losing your sleep like this" I told him to continue this sleep and I continue to pat him too and not long, he said something again,

He said,'Papa, thank you and pleas go to sleep also,otherwise you can't go to work later and I love you"

It really warmed my heart hearing that......................................

P/S : It feels so good

From 1 to 4

So Marvell told me that this time around he got the 4th position in the class from his first term examination, so again that he used to get No 1, I called up to him, I gave him a hug and I asked.

"Are you happy son that this time you did not get the first?" He said no, he asked me why, I said that I was afraid that the he would be sad but judging from his demeanor, I know that he won't be.

I explained to him that it was okay to drop or to fall sometimes,I encouraged him to find out the reasons behind his fall and we talked about it as well.

When I went through his exams paper,I was practically impressed with his achievement, so I told him the position was not a concern to me cos I knew he had tried his best,just some careless mistakes along the way.

I assured him that I wanted him to be happy in his studies,rather than competing with his peers,cos I have some of his classmates' parents who blatantly telling me that they would get their sons and daughter to dislodge Marvell from the first position, that what my concern was, to getting Marvell tossed into this "unwarranted competition"

I am glad that Marvell was cool about his result and he told me that he would do better the next time and I told him that I was just proud of him and that's all.

P/S : Happy that he is Happy